You know the guy, the guy who won't come out and say he doesn't like your shirt but the guy who's quick to crack the shit eating grin and give you the "now that's an interesting outfit." This is the backhanded hater.
Backhanded hate differs from traditional hate in the delivery. While the BH hater uses faux-tact in the delivery of a carefully placed piece of hate, the traditional hater is tactless and thus more easily identified. They will say things like "man, you are a sorry ass loser." Your BH hater will say something more along the lines of "yeah dude, I've always thought a career in waste management was a really noble direction to take, I mean as long as you don't care about money or what society will think about you, that's really an awesome thing you're doing."
Backhanded hate is a sticky situation and an even stickier topic to bring up with a BH user. This is because your typical BH hater is in denial of his perverse form of hating. In fact, when called a backhanded hater, they will often attempt to defend themselves with even more BH hate. It is a vicious cycle.
BH haters can still be good people and good friends, don't get me wrong. Sometimes they don't even know they are afflicted with this strange social disorder. Be on the look out... they can be helped.
2 comments:
that's really cool that you were ballsy enough to write something that goes against the social norm of what's interesting. good for you man.
whoever 'anonymous" is, is really cool, if being a loser is your kinda thing
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